Tuesday, November 19, 2013

Ideas on THINGS TO DO and PLACES TO GO during the Holidays!

The holidays are officially here with Thanksgiving around the corner and Christmas next month (wasn't it summer like last week?). I don't know about you but this is my favorite time of the year! Don't get me wrong, I love summer and spring, but if I had to choose, I'd go with fall/winter! :)

Anyways, I was brainstorming on things to do and places to go during the holidays and I thought I'd share some of them with you (in addition to some suggestions I found online).

THINGS TO DO:
  1. Decorate. Yes, Decorate!   
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This one might seem like a given, but you'd be surprised with how many people don't decorate to avoid all the trouble. Come on, it's the holidays! Get your spirit on! Nobody said you have to go overboard and lit up your house, but at least a small christmas tree in your living room to set the mood... Okay, even only a few scented candles here and there. But seriously, decorating could actually be a lot of fun and, may I add, it is a good stress reliever!

     2.  Go Tree Hunting


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Why not go the extra mile and hunt for a natural christmas tree? Hand picking and cutting down your own natural, fresh, tree could turn into a fun family activity! Plus it adds a great christmas scent to your home. Sounds like a great deal, doesn't it?

     3.  Go Ice Skating!
Millennium Park Ice Rink, Chicago. Photograph by Charles Rex Arbogast/AP
What was that? But you never even learned to roller skate? Who cares! Even if you start by holding on to anything your way, Ice Skating is a great activity to do alone, with a friend, a group of friends, your boyfriend/girlfriend, or your family this winter! Plus it's lots of fun! Trust me, even if you fall a couple of times, you're likely to laugh it off and forget about it. And, no matter where you live, there has to be an ice rink near you!

     4.  Snowboarding/Skiing, maybe?

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Alright, I know. These two are a bit more tricky because they're not as accessible as ice skating, and frankly, they seem harder. But hey, they still look like tons of fun! Personally, I've never been snowboarding or skiing, but they're in my bucket-list. This winter, perhaps?

     5.  Watch The Nutcracker

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Despite all the christmas lights and the big christmas tree at your local mall, you still don't feel like it's the holidays? Then maybe you should really consider watching The Nutcracker. No, I'm not talking about the movie (although you can also watch that :), I'm talking about the live ballet performance. It is a holiday classic, so you can be sure to find performances anywhere! And I could assure you that after the show, you will be really into the holiday spirit!

     6.  Holiday Baking


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Oh no, it's snowing or raining too hard so your plans to go out are cancelled. What to do now? Well, there are a few things you could do; like watch movies, for instance. How about some holiday baking? It is a great way to pass time and bond with your family, if they want to participate. Better yet, you get to eat some delicious treats after!

     7.  Pick up a good book and make yourself a nice cup of coffee.

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If you're somebody who had too much fun already and is simply looking for some alone time to relax during winter, then my suggestion is you pick a good book and make some downtime to sit on your couch with a blanket and a nice, warm, cup of coffee – or tea, or hot chocolate. Or if you love to read and are simply looking for an excuse to get your hands on a new book, this applies to you too. Even though the holidays are all about sharing with family, we all still need some time alone. Plus, it is needless to say that if you own a fire place, this activity sounds much more inviting!

     8.  Give to those in need


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Let's not forget what the true meaning of the holidays is; to give. Some of us get Christmas presents every year, but others are not so fortunate. This is a great time to get rid of things you don't need anymore and give them to those in need. Collecting belongings or food with your family and taking them to a charity or food drive can be quite an activity. In addition to making others happy, we can also get a sense of self-fulfillment. It's a win-win situation!

PLACES TO GO:

  1. The "Big Apple", New York City
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Ever since I was little and watched the Home Alone movies, I wanted to one day visit New York around the holidays because it just seemed like one of those "must do" things and "must go" places. Anyways, if you can buy a trip to the "Big Apple" around New Year, YOU SHOULD. Even if you think the city is too overwhelming, there's just too many people, you would rather spend New Year's at home, (you fill in the blank), you should still add to your bucket list a trip to NYC!

     2.  Chicago, Illinois

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Aside from New York, Chicago is a beautiful city to visit during winter. Not only is it filled with snow and many, many, christmas lights, but it might be a little less overwhelming than NYC during Christmas and New Year. Just a little.

     3.  Boston, Massachusetts

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I never thought of Boston, but according to some articles, it is one of the best places to visit during the holidays! Why? Well from the looks of this picture, it looks beautiful and, as some quoted it, "magical"! There are tons of seasonal things to do and you can get a "true New England experience". Well, seems like I'm adding this one to my list of places I must visit.

     4.  LONDON!

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Okay, this one is more of a place I would love to go to during the holidays. Most people usually like to make these trips abroad during summer, but not me. I don't know why every time I think of a trip to London, I want to do it over winter. Again, I don't know why. I just think it would give me the full experience of the typical "cold, rainy London", you know? Plus winter is already supposed to be cold, so...

     5.  Other Abroad, Winter Wonderland, Getaways...

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If you can afford to travel abroad during the holidays, or if you already live there, then don't hesitate to spend your holidays in these beautiful cities. Prague, Munich, and Paris are just some examples of the many beautiful winter get-away places. Yeah, you also want to spend time with the rest of your relatives, but a few days in Winter Wonderland would not hurt anybody, would it? Judging from the images themselves, one could not be disappointed with the scenery. As long as you don't forget to pack pretty warm clothes, of course.

     6.  Disneyland/Disney World!

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Let's finish up with two far more common places to visit during the holidays (and probably should have mentioned them earlier on the list), Disneyland or Disney World. These are probably cheaper than all the above suggestions if you live in California or Florida. Not to mention that they make the perfect winter vacation for children!

Happy Holidays!


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Thursday, November 7, 2013

True Love or Infatuation?: An analysis of "On Seeing the 100% perfect girl one beautiful April morning" by Haruki Murakami

I went book shopping and I ran into a short story that I read once for a literature class in college. It was one that I really enjoyed, so I decided to do a little analysis of it. Here's the story... 
On seeing the 100% perfect girl one beautiful April morning 
by Haruki Murakami 
One beautiful April morning, on a narrow side street in Tokyo's fashionable Harujuku neighborhood, I walked past the 100% perfect girl. 
Tell you the truth, she's not that good­looking. She doesn't stand out in any way. Her clothes are nothing special. The back of her hair is still bent out of shape from sleep. She isn't young, either ­- must be near thirty, not even close to a "girl," properly speaking. But still, I know from fifty yards away: She's the 100% perfect girl for me. The moment I see her, there's a rumbling in my chest, and my mouth is as dry as a desert.   
Maybe you have your own particular favorite type of girl -­ one with slim ankles, say, or big eyes, or graceful fingers, or you're drawn for no good reason to girls who take their time with every meal. I  have my own preferences, of course. Sometimes in a restaurant I'll catch myself staring at the girl at the next table to mine because I like the shape of her nose. 
But no one can insist that his 100% perfect girl correspond to some preconceived type. Much as I like noses, I can't recall the shape of hers -­ or even if she had one. All I can remember for sure is that she was no great beauty. It's weird. 
"Yesterday on the street I passed the 100% girl," I tell someone. 
"Yeah?" he says. "Good-­looking?" 
"Not really." 
"Your favorite type, then?" 
"I don't know. I can't seem to remember anything about her ­- the shape of her eyes or the size of her breasts." 
"Strange." 
"Yeah. Strange." 
"So anyhow," he says, already bored, "what did you do? Talk to her? Follow her?" 
"Nah. Just passed her on the street." 
She's walking east to west, and I west to east. It's a really nice April morning. 
Wish I could talk to her. Half an hour would be plenty: just ask her about herself, tell her about myself, and -­ what I'd really like to do ­- explain to her the complexities of fate that have led to our  passing each other on a side street in Harajuku on a beautiful April morning in 1981. This was something sure to be crammed full of warm secrets, like an antique clock build when peace filled the world. 
After talking, we'd have lunch somewhere, maybe see a Woody Allen movie, stop by a hotel bar for cocktails. With any kind of luck, we might end up in bed.
Potentiality knocks on the door of my heart. 
Now the distance between us has narrowed to fifteen yards. 
How can I approach her? What should I say? 
"Good morning, miss. Do you think you could spare half an hour for a little conversation?" 
Ridiculous. I'd sound like an insurance salesman. 
"Pardon me, but would you happen to know if there is an all-­night cleaners in the neighborhood?" 
No, this is just as ridiculous. I'm not carrying any laundry, for one thing. Who's going to buy a line like that? 
Maybe the simple truth would do. "Good morning. You are the 100% perfect girl for me." 
No, she wouldn't believe it. Or even if she did, she might not want to talk to me. Sorry, she could say, I might be the 100% perfect girl for you, but you're not the 100% boy for me. It could happen. And if I found myself in that situation, I'd probably go to pieces. I'd never recover from the shock. I'm thirty­-two, and that's what growing older is all about.   
We pass in front of a flower shop. A small, warm air mass touches my skin. The asphalt is damp, and I catch the scent of roses. I can't bring myself to speak to her. She wears a white sweater, and in her right hand she holds a crisp white envelope lacking only a stamp. So: She's written somebody a letter, maybe spent the whole night writing, to judge from the sleepy look in her eyes. The envelope could contain every secret she's ever had. 
I take a few more strides and turn: She's lost in the crowd. 
Now, of course, I know exactly what I should have said to her. It would have been a long speech, though, far too long for me to have delivered it properly. The ideas I come up with are never very practical. 
Oh, well. It would have started "Once upon a time" and ended "A sad story, don't you think?" 
Once upon a time, there lived a boy and a girl. The boy was eighteen and the girl sixteen. He was  not unusually handsome, and she was not especially beautiful. They were just an ordinary lonely boy and an ordinary lonely girl, like all the others. But they believed with their whole hearts that somewhere in the world there lived the 100% perfect boy and the 100% perfect girl for them. Yes, they believed in a miracle. And that miracle actually happened. 
One day the two came upon each other on the corner of a street. 
"This is amazing," he said. "I've been looking for you all my life. You may not believe this, but you're the 100% perfect girl for me." 
"And you," she said to him, "are the 100% perfect boy for me, exactly as I'd pictured you in every detail. It's like a dream." 
They sat on a park bench, held hands, and told each other their stories hour after hour. They were not lonely anymore. They had found and been found by their 100% perfect other. What a wonderful thing it is to find and be found by your 100% perfect other. It's a miracle, a cosmic miracle. 
As they sat and talked, however, a tiny, tiny sliver of doubt took root in their hearts: Was it really all right for one's dreams to come true so easily? 
And so, when there came a momentary lull in their conversation, the boy said to the girl, "Let's test ourselves­ - just once. If we really are each other's 100% perfect lovers, then sometime, somewhere, we will meet again without fail. And when that happens, and we know that we are the 100% perfect ones, we'll marry then and there. What do you think?" 
"Yes," she said, "that is exactly what we should do." 
And so they parted, she to the east, and he to the west. 
The test they had agreed upon, however, was utterly unnecessary. They should never have undertaken it, because they really and truly were each other's 100% perfect lovers, and it was a miracle that they had ever met. But it was impossible for them to know this, young as they were.  The cold, indifferent waves of fate proceeded to toss them unmercifully. 
One winter, both the boy and the girl came down with the season's terrible influenza, and after drifting for weeks between life and death they lost all memory of their earlier years. When they awoke, their heads were as empty as the young D. H. Lawrence's piggy bank. 
They were two bright, determined young people, however, and through their unremitting efforts they were able to acquire once again the knowledge and feeling that qualified them to return as full­ fledged members of society. Heaven be praised, they became truly upstanding citizens who knew how to transfer from one subway line to another, who were fully capable of sending a special­-delivery letter at the post office. Indeed, they even experienced love again, sometimes as much as 75% or even 85% love. 
Time passed with shocking swiftness, and soon the boy was thirty-­two, the girl thirty. 
One beautiful April morning, in search of a cup of coffee to start the day, the boy was walking from west to east, while the girl, intending to send a special-delivery letter, was walking from east to west, but along the same narrow street in the Harajuku neighborhood of Tokyo. They passed each other in the very center of the street. The faintest gleam of their lost memories glimmered for the briefest moment in their hearts. Each felt a rumbling in their chest. And they knew: 
She is the 100% perfect girl for me. 
He is the 100% perfect boy for me. 
But the glow of their memories was far too weak, and their thoughts no longer had the clarity of fourteen years earlier. Without a word, they passed each other, disappearing into the crowd. Forever. 
A sad story, don't you think? 
Yes, that's it, that is what I should have said to her.
Murakami, Haruki. "On Seeing The 100% Perfect Girl One Beautiful April Morning." Exploring Literature. By Frank Madden. Trans. Jay Robin. 4th ed. New York: Longman, 2009. 470-473. Print. 

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So now that you've read the story, what was it? True love or infatuation? Or both?

Haruki Murakami uses literary devices to effectively deliver the theme of his work: true love always finds its way; if it fails to do so, it's not true love. The narrator, whose name is not revealed, meets a girl during his youth whom he believes to be his 100% perfect girl. Both doubting the possibility of love at first sight, they say goodbye hoping that if they are meant for each other love will bring them back together. Fourteen years later, suffering of memory loss, they meet again on the street but unlike their first encounter, they walk past each other without saying a word. Yes, destiny physically crossed their lives again, but emotionally they remained forever strangers. The setting – geographical, historical, physical location, and atmosphere – and symbolism – indirect representations – play a crucial role in helping to see beyond words and understanding the theme by allowing the reader to feel present in the story.

The physical setting in which the boy and the girl meet for the first time helps the reader visualize a casual encounter in a romantic atmosphere, filled with joy. They do not meet in any random place, but specifically on "the corner of a street" (472). Corners result from perpendicular lines, which by definition, always intersect in a perfect ninety degree angle. In other words, the young boy and girl were destined to meet each other at the intersection, trapped in an emotion that made the very moment seem perfect; love. As they confess what their young hearts believe is true, that they are each other's true love, they move to an equally romantic setting. They do not sit on a bench by a bus stop, for instance.  They sit on a park bench where they unite holding hands (472). A park is where many couples like to spend time because it is a simple, yet relaxing interaction with nature and with each other. Sitting at a coffee shop would not create the same romantic ambience that a park, a lake, or any other natural setting would. A coffee shop would be a better place for two friends with solely friendship intentions to meet and have a talk.

When the boy and the girl meet again fourteen years later as adults, geographical, historical, and physical setting work together to evoke the reader's imagination into why the moment seems ideal, but still fails to reunite their hearts. Setting is important because it is repeated throughout the story. The three types of setting are expressed in the very first sentence, "One beautiful April morning, on a narrow side street in Tokyo's fashionable Harajuku neighborhood, I walk past the 100% perfect girl" (470). In order to understand the theme, the author finds it vital that the reader is provided with this information as early as the first sentence and even the title of the story. The time of the year and day could completely change the response a reader has of the story. Specifically, the encounter takes place on an April morning; the heart of Spring. This season brings warmer days that produce sprouts in previously dried plants and trees. It's the season in which colorful flowers grow, the skies are clear, and birds sing louder creating a sense of joy and happiness. The morning creates an image of a sunrise which shapes a feeling of romance and new beginnings. The neighborhood in Japan is described as fashionable. One way of picturing this is a street full of people wearing different, colorful, costumes that make it hard for them to stand out from one another. The girl doesn't look especially different from them. The moment when they pass each other again occurs "in front of a flower shop" (471). Why not a coffee shop? Because the flowers represent their love. However, the flowers are no longer growing; they are cut just like their fantasy love. Even though in their youth they felt the strongest kind of love they had ever felt, fourteen years later they walk by each other without saying a word. They are no longer each other's 100% perfect boy and girl.

In order to make the reader believe how strongly the boy felt that the girl was 100% perfect for him, symbolism comes in play. What the symbols represent varies on the background and personal experiences of each reader. For example, thorns of a rose might symbolize the hardships and pain to some, but protection to others. The narrator of this story puts an emphasis on how, despite his attraction to girls' noses, he cannot even recall if this 100% perfect girl had one (471). The nose is one of the most noticeable features of a face. In a girl, it contributes to her level of beauty; a big or small nose, relative to the face, makes her more or less physically attractive. Usually first attraction of the opposite sex is that of physical characteristics; however, the boy in the story makes it clear that his feelings for the girl were not physical. The feeling of true love he felt without having talked to her before was incredibly strong that he did not notice the one thing he likes the most on girls; her nose. When they find each other again in adulthood, he notices that she carries a "white envelope lacking only a stamp" and then assumes it contains a letter (471). A letter is generally longer than a note, which in this case represents the long time that has passed and her story – the experiences that shaped her life. It's in a white envelope because her life is unknown to the boy. He wishes to know its content by talking to her, but afraid that his memories will be destroyed by reality, he chooses not to. Even though he is ignorant of what her current feelings are, he believes that he is the missing stamp to complete her letter; her life story. If he truly was, they both would have stopped to talk about their true love.

Although the narrator mostly focuses on the romantic, almost unrealistic, side, the story transitions to reality and the overall theme with the help of symbolism. Just like the setting, there is an emphasis through repetition of the fact that she walks to the east and he walks to the west (471).  Even though they both believe they are each other's true love and eventually will be brought together by destiny, both times (when they first say goodbye and when they meet again on the street) they walk in opposite directions. This foreshadows that their lives are not going, and will not end, on the same path. It is significant when they walk past each other because, unlike their very first encounter, they walk on parallel lines in opposite direction. By definition parallel lines never intersect; they were not meant to cross their lives a second time. This could be a reason why even when he felt the strong need to talk to her, he remained quiet and walked away. It was the work of destiny. After showing the cruel reality, he ends his story by referring to it as a sad one (473). A first impression could be that he is regretful of letting the love of his life go, after destiny did bring them together, for fear that he will be rejected.  However, he calls it a sad story because even though in their youth they truly believed in a love fantasy, the reality of fourteen years later is that they are not each other's 100% perfect lovers, and they know this. Yes, he blames their failure on the loss of memory they suffered, but in reality this incident would not matter when it comes to true love. They did not know, or had any memory of, each other when they first met to begin with. If it had been true love, they would have felt the love at first sight again despite of unfamiliarity with each other.

In order to have a better understanding of the theme of a story, the reader must be able to fully engage in the text as if being present in it. Writers use literary devices such as imagery, simile, and personification to help the reader sense the emotions and feel the action, creating a better reading experience. In the short story by Haruki Murakami, the two most important literary devices that contribute to the central idea are setting and symbolism. He successfully conveys the point that true love will find its way regardless of obstacles such as time and memory loss. The boy and girl were then carried by infatuation, a strong attraction mistaken for love, and that is a sad story.

So, what are your thoughts of the story? is there such thing as "destiny"? or did they create their own destiny by choosing to, first, let go and then walk past each other without saying a word?

Sorry for the lengthy post and thanks if you made it all the way to the end :)

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Friday, November 1, 2013

Reflective Friday

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I haven't been keeping up with my blog, and I apologize. I wanted to write about something that would interest everybody... or almost everybody, but I was struggling with that. As a result, I kept putting it off. I have two blog posts that I will be publishing later on today or next week, if everything goes right. Anyways, the same friend who inspired my very first blog post, inspired me to simply sit down and reflect on how much things have changed throughout this year... so here I am.

It's November and 2014 is only 2 months away. It's crazy because I lost track of what happened to all the time that is now gone. It feels just like yesterday that it was January and it was freezing cold in LA. I remember Valentine's and I could literally describe every detail of what happened that day. It also feels just like yesterday that my life turned completely around back in April, when life forced me to change everything I had planned, including what I would do after graduation. And when I think back to it, I can't help to realize that I have grown so much ever since.

I'm not going to sit here writing a long post about every detail that happened, or explain the things that have changed since then. I just want to sympathize with anybody who might be going through a hard time. You are stronger than you think you are and things do get better. Although it can be very hard to see a way out when going through a hardship, time does heal everything, even the deepest cuts. As of now, I am just very blessed to be where I am and to know that I am much stronger than I ever thought I was. There are still many unanswered questions, but unlike 6 months ago, now I don't need, nor desire, to find the answers. I do understand that everything has a purpose in life, and though I strongly believe that we are the creators of our own destiny, I know that the 360 degree turn my life took back in the Spring truly happened for a reason.

Let's all be grateful for the life we lead; at the end of the day, it's the only one we'll ever have.

Lot's of love!


Wednesday, September 11, 2013

Want to Fit in? Things You Shouldn't Post on Instagram

Recently, a friend from college and I had a small conversation about why he doesn't have an Instagram.

What we agreed on is that social media has its ups and downs; and just about anyone reading this could agree. We all want to pitch in through our selfies, quotes, life styles, and just about anything that increases our self esteem, but we also want to avoid drama. I mean, I agree that social media could be very resourceful and a good way to keep in touch with friends and the world (aside from actually reading the newspaper). However, we must ask ourselves these questions: is a social media ever too much? or do we ever go too far?

First of all, let's discuss a little bit of Social Psychology. I have a Psychology degree, I could not pass an opportunity to talk about it! 

People have two fundamental social motivations:
  1. People want to be liked and have a need to belong.
  2. People want to be accurate, consistent, and authentic.
With respect to the first one, we could talk about the Self-Discrepacy Theory by E. Tory Higgins (1987).  This simply states that there are three types of "self", and as a result we can fall short of expectations between these which could lead to negative emotions. The three types are:
  1. the "ideal self": who you want to be
  2. the "ought self": who you should be, or who society thinks you should be
  3. the "real self": who you BELIEVE you are, regardless of who you really are
Now, the different kinds of emotions we get from the discrepancies between these are as follows:
  • a low-discrepancy between the "real" self and the "ideal" self= joy!
    • this means that who you believe you are is who you want to be; thus, you're happy!
  • a low-discrepancy between the "real" self and the "ought" self= satisfaction
    • this means that you feel satisfied with how well you fit in with how society expects you to be.
  • a high-discrepancy between the "real" self and the "ideal" self= sadness
    • this means that who you believe you are is far from who you really want to be.
  • a high-discrepancy between the "real" self and the "ought" self= anxiety
    • this means that you are not who society thinks you should be, and as result you become anxious. This is where social media plays a big role! Girls trying to look prettier; guys trying to look buffer. How many times have you taken a picture, in which you think you look very attractive, and feel the need to post it so that your followers can 'like' it? Been there, done that! Even those of you who claim that "what matters is the inner beauty" and praise it by posting quotes or more selfies (where you actually look very good), subconsciously are very worried about how society perceives you. That's why you feel the need to point out that real beauty is in the inside in the first place! I mean, don't get me wrong. I also think that one's character should be the most important. But hey! We're humans and we want to belong and be liked. Remember?
It's kind of funny because when we're in public, we're all so worried about how we look and how other people perceive us, that we actually hardly notice how other people look. In other words, if you go out in sweats one day with hardly any make-up and you are so worried about what people are going to think of you, DON'T WORRY! It is very likely that people are going to be so worried about how THEY look that they will hardly notice you are not looking your sharpest! Crazy, right?  
You might ask, well then how come people are more attracted to you when you look nice? That's because you feel satisfied with the way you look and feel good; thus, you portray confidence and a nice image. People are attracted to that!
I guess on Instagram it is a bit different. There is more time to carefully observe a picture and probably no one is looking at you. Since your mind is not busy with worry, you can notice that beauty mark you never knew a certain person had!

There are some users that hardly post anything and then some that post about EVERYTHING, literally! As a consequence, some complain and even make fun... like in this video:

I've ran into articles that literally criticize everything that one posts on Instagram, but I think that's a bit too far. I mean, what are we supposed to post after all? I also like to post selfies and random things, but there are things that I do think are a bit too much. So, here's my opinion on things that should be avoided...

1. The Weed Picture (or anything illegal)
Cool, you smoke and you enjoy the effects that come with it. However, let me remind you that it is mostly illegal; and unless you don't have any desire for a job or a career, posting pictures about your pot is a bad idea. Especially if your profile is public! Now, nothing wrong with liking weed! But how about just enjoying it and not posting about it? Same thing, right?

2. The Half-Naked or Mostly-Naked Picture
Everybody has the right to post pictures of themselves in any way; nobody is arguing against that. Yet, most of the half-naked pictures I have run into are of teenagers who, I'm afraid, haven't reached psychological maturity. Thus, they are probably not capable of making good decisions. Now, let's elaborate a bit on that, shall we? Our brains have two systems: the 'social-emotional' system– which develops roughly at age 15 and increases our sensitivity to the rewards we see of acting on the heat of the moment. This is why teens are so risky. Then there's the 'cognitive control' system– which continues to develop into adulthood and allows for better decision making. So it makes sense that most of these pictures are from teens. Yes girls, there are models who look lovely in their half-naked pictures, but unlike you, they get paid for posing! Keep in mind that anything that is uploaded into the internet stays there forever! Stay classy, ladies.

3. The multiple 'Turn Up' Pictures... of One Night
Congratulations! You know how to enjoy yourself and the company of those around you through music and drinks. That's great! We all love to party; and the harder, the better! My question is, how do people actually remember to take a picture every time they're supposedly having 'a great time'? If you're having such a great time, why are you wasting valuable partying time taking blurry pictures, and even taking more time posting them? Personally, I rather dance the night away and enjoy the moment. Yes, a picture with your party people won't hurt. We like bragging about our social lives... but do we really need to post a picture with everyone we run into? I think not!

4. The Food Pictures
I'm not referring to the people who occasionally will post a picture of the very delicious-looking meal they're having. I'm talking about those who probably do it as often as they eat a nicely cooked meal. Whenever I get my meal at a restaurant, first thing I do is eat it! The better and the more artsy it looks, the faster I start eating it! I'm hungry! How do people remember to post a picture of every fancy, and not-so-fancy, meal they eat?

5. The Working Out, at the Gym, Picture
Whoo! Props to you on deciding to make a change to your life style by getting fit! Yes, I've been guilty of posting a couple of workout-related pictures, but I don't want to bore people with my same-old routine! I run and work out to stay fit and healthy, not to brag about it on Instagram. But it's cool, I get it. You feel proud of yourself; therefore, you want to get the attention you think you deserve for it. I applaud your hard work! What I wonder is, for those who take pictures at the gym and claim to be "hitting it hard", why are you posing? Hit it hard! Unless you're a fitness instructor or a personal trainer who is promoting what you do for a living, you should limit yourself to only posting a nice one every now and then. Just keep up the good work!

6. The Stacks of Money Picture
It's good that you're not broke! But do you really want to post a picture of the amount on your pay check or your already-cashed check? Are you trying to get robbed? What's the message you're trying to communicate here? Of course society emphasizes the importance of being employed and becoming successful, but I think you actually working already delivers that message.

Personally, I like Instagram. But! No matter how much you want to be liked, there is social media etiquette; and most specifically, Instagram etiquette.